Recently singer Jenni Rivera died in a plane crash with her crew over Mexico. I never knew her or listened to her music. What was interesting to me was how people, her fans, the media, spoke about her with reverence and sadness for the loss. Clearly she had touched their lives in some way.
Later on the day she was confirmed dead, my good friend Tony, who had interviewed her for the Immigrant Archive Project, posted on Facebook a thought provoking question.
How do you want to be remembered? What will your legacy be?
Wow. That is such a life changing question. If you answer that question honestly you will have a blueprint to a successful life. I answered Tony’s question below:
I want to be remembered as the person that helped transform people’s lives by helping them live the best versions of themselves. I want to be remembered as a father who loved his kids and taught them to serve and create value in this world. Finally, as a loyal husband that would go to the ends of the earth to see a smile from his wife.
Please share your thoughts.
My friend Karuna was one of the first to take on the Daily 50 Project 21 Day Challenge. I wanted to share a recent post she made because it helped me explore thankfulness from a new perspective.
“Today my thankfulness is towards having a voice. I said my daily 50 in total quietness and stillness sitting in a chair. I could feel the vibrations in my throat as I said each one. It is said that we have subtle vibrations of energy. Saying the daily 50 out loud brings power to positive vibrations. Pretty cool when there is only you and silence and the daily50!”
This morning I made it a point to focus on the vibration and sound as I said my daily50 aloud. To make it easier I focused naming people in my life I was thankful for.
Let me just say I started by making noises and seeing how that felt in my throat and body then after I found the “groove” I started. After I finished my 50 I kept going with the sound. I was playing with different sounds and pitches until I broke out in song…yes song.By the way I can’t sing (well) but that is not point. The purpose was to explore method and connect with my body from a new perspective.
If you have not tried it, I highly recommend you giving it a shot. Dedicate one of your daily 50 to focus on vibration of the sound and your voice as they go through your vocal cords. Talk about being present.
*CAUTION – Breaking out in song is a side effect of this method. It may cause more joy and an uncontrollable smile.
Thanks Karuna for sharing.
Last night prepping for my trip to London I sat down to write before I went to bed. I reflected on my family. I often do this when I am going to fly. Not to be a downer but what happened if something went wrong and I didn’t make it?
I want to make sure my wife and kids know how I feel. I love my family, I love my friends, I love my life.
The question here is not if I am going to die. That is certain (hopefully not soon). We will all die at some point. The question is did I live?
If you are reading this you have “life” (duh) but are you truly living or are you just letting life pass you by? Karuna shared a touching story about a little girl she got to mentor and connect with that wanted to commit suicide (before she met her not after…just want to be clear). Some the realizations she had how much we really have yet take for granted. We must share the perspective this little girl had looking at the little thing with awe and appreciation.
I realized last night that I need to share and be more vocal with all the people that I love. Brittney mentioned in one of her reflections how she has been more vocal with her family and those she loves how grateful she is to have them and how grateful she is for what they do.
So let me just say that I love you. Not in a sappy off the cuff kind of way. As a member of this project you have touched my life in more ways that you can imagine. Seeing so many of you connect with your true self has given me so much joy and purpose. I have learned so much by reading your reflections. When I started this I thought oh this would be a nice idea, people would feel good, but I never imagined so many breakthroughs, so many lives changed.
Thank you for believing in the daily50 project and for not being afraid to reveal the real you.
This morning after I finished running I felt completely invigorated. I didn’t get to sleep much because Amelie was awake from 2-3:30 AM and I had to get up at 4am.
I realized that running, like life is about putting 1 foot in front of the other. At it may be difficult because you are tired or have doubt. But you’ll notice that the more steps you take the less resistance you will have.
You create momentum.
Take today to create momentum for how you want to feel and where you want to go.
This morning was hectic for me and I didn’t say my #daily50. In fact I was frustrated and irritated with my wife instead of thankful for having such an amazing women in my life. At around 4pm I read the facebook posts on our group page. My entire perspective changed.
First, I was truly honored by everyone’s words. In fact they made me very emotional. Amazing how a simple idea has affected us all and those around us. I also realized that while the nation takes this day to give thanks and feel good, we tap into that hidden power of thankfulness daily. I am thankful for that. We get to feel this awesomeness every single day (without all the extra calories).
After assessing my feelings and frustrations of the day, I decided to dedicate my #daily50 to the most important person in my life. My wife. I took Brittany and Gretha’s example and i wrote 50 things I was thankful for about my wife. (Writing with pen and paper has been linked to a stronger physiological and visceral connection of your emotions.)
After I finished writing my daily50, I feel like I’m radiating love and joy because I get to be with the person that completes me. The women of my dreams. Christian I am thankful for you. For all you do. For the way you live. For the way you lead. And for the way you love. Thank you for saying yes and marrying this hopeless romantic.
♥ Happy Thanksgiving ♥